Here I am having a beer and a smile...

Every so often I will get into an “introspective” mood and deliberate, in my mind, such “heady” issues as the national debt, health care reform…lol, the dwindling intelligence level in America…and so on.  I could list fifty things and probably never scratch the surface.  And it is true, no matter how hard you may find it to believe that, even though I am in porn I still have a brain….lol.  Nevertheless I ruminate over things in my head, as we all do, from time to time.  But today I started thinking about the motivations of people that act in weird ways.  For example, what would possess someone to spend all this “foreplay” time with me on the phone and internet and then when faced with ACTUALLY meeting me…flake out?

Since getting into this business I have met a TON of super-cool people.  The casual observer/outsider of porn would probably assume, wrongly of course, that the adult movie business is full of seedy low-lifes, old-men perverts, and generally the “flotsum and jetsum” of the world.  It has been my experience, however, that MOST people in the business, whether they be producers, directors, photographers or talent, are really down-to-earth people with somewhat abnormally high sex-drives…lol.  Well, that’s an accurate description of me anyway.  I have worked for big companies and small, amateur and pro, and have found that there are a lot of jerks out there, but I would hazzard to guess that the percentage is no higher than in the general, non-porn, population.  What is of more importance to me is how the world has gravitated towards the impersonal ways of social interaction.  Please do not get me wrong…I LOVE to blog, I love to meet and talk to new people, I think that technologies like Twitter and Myspace are great to an extent…they enable swift exchanges of information between people scattered throughout the world.  Before the internet the only way to do that was via the telephone, and it was far more expensive to CALL your relative in another country to tell them about little Johnnie’s first grade play than it is to “tweet” them.  I applaud technologies which enable us to do “more with less” but what are we really accomplishing at the end of the day? 

I believe that the so-called “social networking” sites are actually de-sensitizing us to all things that are actually “social”.  I mean when you are “tweeting” someone on the other side of the world, OR the other side of the block, how do you know who you are really talking to?  And how do you know that it really IS a guy, or a girl, or a whatever?  And more importantly, when things become impersonal it makes it easier for people to mis-treat eachother.  At least that’s my opinion.  Think about it…..in today’s military we have soldiers sitting in a bunker somewhere in the Nevada desert, looking at a TV monitor and flying Predator drones with Playstation 3-like controls, over some huts in Afghanistan and bombing and killing people that they NEVER see.  I am not trying to get into a debate over war, politics or our military.  I am merely pointing out how technology has taken SO many personal elements out of our day-to-day lives and relegated them to the trash heap of irrelevance.  Why invest time to understand an issue when you can just “Google” it and read some other asshole’s opinion of what the issue is.  Why think for yourself when you can let someone else do your thinking for you? 

But the REAL victim in all this is our humanity…that’s right…our humanity.  When you are investing so little in “getting to know” someone then what do you care about their lives, their TRUE personalities, their likes and dislikes, etc?  And therefore, when you SAY you want to meet someone and then decide that something else is more important…who cares?  You just ditch the bitch for the football game, or the concert, or the always-popular “Contemplation of navel-lint” seminar at the local college.  It is a sad day when a bitch can’t even GIVE the pussy away…lol.  But seriously…I would love to hear what others think about this proliferation of “impersonalness” (is that actually a word?).   Please write me and tell me what you think.  I am calling on all my fans to weigh- in on social-networking.  What are the pros and cons in your minds?  I will await your replies and continue this as an ongoing series of blog articles.   Your SLUT…xoxoxo Lindsey

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